Summary: Small groups fall into unhealthy discussion traps because they don’t utilize processes and principles that promote how they’re supposed to interact with each other as the body of Christ. How we structure our relationships and meetings matters. We cannot ignore the design of being made to interact in circular relationships.
Made For Circle
Made For Circle
Summary: Small groups need a structure in place that will enable them to carry out the experience they want to have. If they want the Holy Spirit to do His best work, they must know the environment in which that happens. Here we’ll explore two aspects of what helps create that environment – a clear invitation and a clear purpose.
Summary: To have great small group discussions, each person has to do their job. It’s the only way to lay hold of the group’s collective Wisdom through having a leader in every chair. But participation requires preparation or the circle will be broken.
Summary: Small groups should not be led by people who carry more importance and power. Instead, small groups should allow The Leader (Christ) to lead through the group as a whole. In order to do this, small groups need hosts instead of leaders.
Summary: A small group’s purpose is to receive clearly what the Lord wants for it. This happens best when there’s a third point (the center) in discussions that helps us keep our focus on Him. When we don’t use the technique of focusing on the center, our discussions are much less likely to be all about Him.
Summary: The start-point, check-in and check-out are 3 components that if executed well, can take small group discussions from being unstructured, choppy and difficult to listen to and follow; to being times where the group can operate at its highest level.
Summary: The God-designed way for small groups and churches to coordinate themselves is through agreements. These develop accountability, unity and self-governing so that groups can be the all-leader systems they are designed to be.
Summary: People’s varying perspectives and communication skills affect a small group’s ability to fulfill its purpose. There are 3 core communication practices each individual in a small group needs to understand and develop skill in that will help navigate this.
Summary: In order to be spiritually healthy, a small group must have unity in participation. There are 4 basic roles each person can take on that makes sure this happens. The more people get trained in these roles, the healthier small group discussions become.
“You don’t know what you don’t know.” This is a popular saying you hear once in a while. Typically, you hear it when people are thinking in hindsight and explaining why something didn’t work out the way they thought. They likely made a decision in the past they thought was best at the time but didn’t foresee everything about the situation. If they would have known what they didn’t know, they would have made a different choice.
No matter when or where we join a small group, there are certain norms that we adhere to (spoken or unspoken) that serve as the boundaries for what respectful interaction is. Without those boundaries in place, anything goes. And when things do happen, there’s nothing to refer back to in dealing with the situations that may arise.